Today we are so happy to have an amazing lady sharing with us... and when I say amazing, I mean it! I have been so extremely blessed to have gotten to spend time with Kathy. I can't help but want to be around her. She is so smart, inspiring, wise, and empowering. I could go on and on, but instead let me tell you a little more about who Kathy is and what she does.
Kathy is a life and leadership coach with Lead Self Lead Others, where she enthusiastically coaches clients to move their life and leadership forward and unlock maximum potential, while valuing the individual's talents, giftings, and abilities to overcome real and imagined obstacles to achievement.
Kathy has over 8 years of experience coaching business and ministry leaders. Kathy earned her Master's in Christian Ministries-Leadership from the Assemblies of God Theological Seminary in 2013. She has over 20 years of leadership experience in business and ministry organizations.
Kathy is the Founder and Executive Director of The Sacred Nest, a non-profit women's ministry. Each week she leads a team to minister to women, teaches Bible study classes, and hosts outreaches to empower and encourage women.
Kathy has been married to her husband, Ron, for 34 years and has two adult sons and one daughter-in-love. A good day finds her reading books, having meaningful conversations over hot green tea, or traveling the U.S. and Europe with her family. Doesn't sound like a bad way to spend the day if you ask me!
Well let's get to it shall we?
Life was full of never-ending activities. Every time someone needed my help at church or at my kid's school, I said yes. I wanted to fit in. To belong. To be admired, accepted and thus, affirmed. Through all those yes's, I was drifting farther and farther away from being authentic. Being the real me. Inside my heart was cluttered with meeting other's expectations and I couldn't understand why I just never seemed to feel joy. Until that day. That day after Christmas 2006. The call that changed everything. Malignant. Cancer.
It's the best phone call and the worst phone call. The worst, because the word cancer itself is an ugly word that dredges up fearful thoughts. The best, because it was the beginning of saying no. The beginning of de-cluttering myself from who I thought others wanted me to be. When the soul is cluttered with other's expectations and opinions, you drift farther and farther away from who God created you to be. As the apostle Peter pointed out, a cluttered soul lives for evil human desires. Saying yes to everyone's desires doesn't appear evil at first glance. It seems service oriented, and shouldn't we serve one another? The motivation is the evil issue. Yes is sometimes motivated by seeking the approval of others instead of the will of God. That's where we get cluttered in too much approval seeking. It darkens the soul with items that don't belong. Anxiety, worry, depression, and deep down inside feeling not worthy of love and belonging.
The suffering of cancer is what woke me up. Months before that call I had struggled with God over quitting my job. We didn't need it financially; it just gave me a false sense of approval from others. The day after my cancer diagnosis, I walked into my boss's office and quit. I was suddenly done with living the rest of my life seeking other's approval. And that first step of uncluttering started a new journey of living the rest of my life for the will of God. I am loved and I belong to Him, and that is enough.
Who are you living for?
Whose approval are you seeking?
If you didn't need to say yes in order to be loved, who would you say no to?
What do you need to unclutter in order to live only for God's will?
Clear out man's approval seeking and make room in your soul for God's will. It's a room that's a whole lot easier to keep clean.
For more information, questions, or coaching inquires, you can connect with Kathy here.